The Year Of Growth

The Year Of Growth

2017 was quite a year of professional growth for me. I accomplished goals that I set forth for myself that I honestly never thought I would achieve. There were others who didn’t think I was capable of achieving those goals either. I showed the hell out of them. Damn, 2017 was good to me on that end.

HOWEVER, there is always a downfall isn’t there? Where I grew by bounds professionally, my personal growth was stunted. I had so much that I wanted to accomplish (including keeping up with this blog) that I never even started. What’s up with that? I know that I can multitask, but it’s as if I chose not to because I didn’t want to focus on anything other than work. I don’t want to be one of those women that become successful in one faction at the detriment of the other. I will not become one of those women.

2018 I’m going to continue to grow in my profession. This black girl magic is going to drip all up and through the work force. But I’m going to focus a lot more on my personal life, too. It’s time for a year of self-care, girl trips, solo activities. A year of yoni steaming, gym going, and crystal vibing. This year I’m raising credit scores, investing in my savings account, INVESTING IN ME! It’s time I remember that I can’t just go to work and come home. I need to take care of myself because I deserve it. I worked hard last year. I’m working hard this year. But my to-do list will have to include some personal activities also. Even if I’m in it by myself (which…I hate doing things by myself. But I will learn). Y’all better get ready for this glo.

Black Yoni Society…BaBYS….we are poppin in our magic in 2018!

Amari Divine

Neglect

Neglect

I haven’t been here. I’m not sure if anyone even noticed. I started this blog when a major shift was occurring in my life. But I thought I would still make time for it. Black Yoni Society is a blog that I wanted for a long time, with a concept I had been feeling for a while.  I started this blog with a sister circle, but none of us held the other accountable and the dream blog I had began to fall by the wayside. I always thought about updating it…but never actually did. I apologize. The few of you who may read this deserve better. This blog space deserves better. I’ve had so many topics I’ve wanted to write about, that I’ve wanted to talk to you all about.

They say you make time for the things that you want. I want this blog yet I’ve made more excuses than time. I wish I could say BYS is the only thing I’ve been neglecting in my life, but it isn’t. I’ve become so lazy. I need to balance my life with more self-care. I admit, I’ve spoiled myself a little. But I haven’t meditated as much, I haven’t exercised as much, I haven’t read, journaled, blogged…..basically I haven’t taken care of me like I should have. So, here is me hoping that I take the initiative and start investing back in me. Cutting out the toxicity, enjoying the beauty, and practicing self-care. And updating my damn blog! Lol.

Hopefully, I’ll be writing you soon,

Amari Divine

I’m Not Black, I’m (Insert Descendants of Africa Here).

I’m Not Black, I’m (Insert Descendants of Africa Here).

To be Black in America is to know heartache. To witness and live through hatred of your being because of your skin color, or name, or even your hair texture. To be considered less than good enough. To have had your identity stripped from you, and then when you look to others that look like you but are from a different country, to be told that you are not xyz so you can’t participate- you can’t understand the culture. To be Black anywhere is to  want a sense of belonging, to fight harder  and still receive  less than, to be proud of you are, and to be trying to regain a sense of self-acclimation.

There are many Caribbean and African people that believe that they are inherently different from Black Americans. New-aged Caribbean and African people understand these believed differences that have been passed down through generations, but happily, many of their world-views have changed. There is a stereotype that Jamaicans are hardworking,  have at least 2 to 3 jobs, and care a lot about family.  One could also mention the importance placed on money, which isn’t necessarily a negative stereotype but it can be a harmful one. Many children outside of the United States are taught they are diligent and “fought and worked hard to get what they want” as if Black Americans didn’t work hard for what they had or wanted, as if Black American children aren’t taught the same, and if you want to be brutally honest, it is a bit harder for children who are born in America because many of them know the implications of “you have to work twice as hard to be considered half as good” in this country. That is because of the effects that white supremacy had, and still has, on this nation.

There are many forms of racism that have been affecting black people since we have entered this country, and contrary to popular belief, while it may seem overt racism ended with the end of Jim Crow and segregation, it didn’t. Even so, the most harmful form of racism is the subtle kind, with the addition of institutional racism. Now to come back from that brief tangent, it may seem like Black Americans do not have “work ethic”-that they are lazy and uneducated.  This is exactly how the proverbial they want it. Even to this day, Black Americans have been portrayed in this way which is viewed by them and other people and cultures all over the globe, and they reinforce it by repeatedly showcasing those very few of us that have fallen prey to the circumstances that they put into fruition. Basically, Black Americans have been portrayed as lazy ever since we stopped working for free….as slaves. When they look at us, they don’t see: Jamaican, Guyanese, Ghanaian, Ethiopian, or Grenadian. They see they the blackness of our skin, the kinks in our hair, the broadness of our noses, the fullness of our lips, and if they hear us speak, they might pick up on a sprinkle of accent, but we are still viewed as Black, and to many this a threat.

We are all presented with the same “opportunities”, but on a more personal level, we all have different experiences and roadblocks that prevent us from obtaining access to those opportunities, some of us more than others. Just about every form has that race section and the choice is Black/African American, (many people opt to select “other” if there is no Black option), no matter if you are from Ghana, Jamaica, Guyana, Mali, etc, here on these grounds of the United States, you will be considered black (whether you want to believe this or not). So to say “I’m not Black, I’m (insert descendants of Africa here) is redundant. So while you may not be African American, you are Black, your family just got let off the slave ship a little sooner.

The Gawdess Project

Single Black Female, Addicted to Vegan

Single Black Female, Addicted to Vegan

I promise you this won’t be preachy, just an unbiased look at what it’s like to not be white and
not eat meat. Advice and links for meat eaters and aspiring plant-based dieters alike will be at
the end of this post.
I wasn’t born or raised vegan. I began my journey summer 2011 on accident. As usual while
temperatures were rising my meat intake was decreasing. Simultaneously I began to notice I
was feeling physically better than usual. As an asthmatic who has year-round indoor and
seasonal outdoor allergies, any relief from my symptoms and increase in energy does not go
unnoticed. From there I decided to transition to a pescetarian i.e. a person who eats no land
creatures including poultry but will still eat seafood. I stayed that dietary course until summer of 2016 when I decided to become a full vegetarian. By the end of summer ‘16 I had so much
energy between calisthenics, no meat, and minimal dairy and egg intake that I let a friend talk

me into being his accountability partner for trying veganism(no animal products). 6 months later I’m still here. While it was easy for me since I hadn’t given up meat cold turkey, it has not been easy to shake the stigma and the occasional cravings for fish, eggs and other things that I recently stopped eating.

 

Stigma? Yes there is still a lot of stigma and resistance towards plant-based diets in
communities of color.
  • A lot of people hold on to the mentality of pork is the legacy of my ancestors surviving slavery.
  • People see it as those “hippie white people’s diet”.
  • There are those who follow the rhetoric that the only place one can get protein from are animals, dairy, beans, and nuts.
  • Similarly, there are those who just think it is unnatural and unhealthy.
  • Family & friends also feels the need to tell us how we’ll never get a man or woman because all we eat is rabbit food.
I do not bring these up to shame the people who think these and other things-positive, negative, or indifferent about plant-based diets but just to shed light on why sometimes vegans feel defensive about our diet and our lifestyle. In response to the first statement I agree, pork and other meats are very much so a part of the legacy Africans throughout the diaspora surviving slavery. Regardless of the meat type we all know that slaves got the scraps, transforming them into sustaining and delicious meals but the lifestyles of those Africans in America versus today’s Americans of African descent are vastly different. The food that Americans cook today isn’t even the same foods as their ancestors. It’s highly processed, full of additives and chemicals that didn’t exist when our ancestors created these dishes, and the animals are full of fake hormones and antibiotics because they are much less healthy than ones our ancestors raised. Additionally the amount of calories and fat that our ancestors consumed were much more proportionate to their activity level then than that of current Americans with our diets. Also if one takes a cue from economics and sociology meat is a luxury food. For some Africans it was added to their diet after they arrived in the Americas, so plant-based diets are a part of our culture as Africans as well. This transitions to the next statement-yes, veganism is popular amongst white people who could be considered hippies, but veganism was started by people of color, despite being first described by white people. I this is why after many people of color transition to a more plant-based diet they seem to see decrease not only in excess weight but in the chronic conditions caused by eating fake food and their symptoms. The comment about protein is the one that I most often hear and I faithfully respond to questions about where I get my protein from with, “The same place the elephants and gorillas get their protein from”. The meat and dairy industry are a large player in our nation’s economy, as such they have bought their way to being the base of nation’s now obsolete food pyramid and until recently had a monopoly on knowledge of protein sources. While it is true that protein from animal sources is easier for the body to digest and convert, it is false that it is impossible or almost impossible to get protein from plant-based sources. The main difference between animal and plant-based protein sources is what you get along with your protein. With animal based sources you usually get all of your amino acids needed to build your body’s proteins but along with them come iron, omega fatty acids, cholesterol, sodium (sometimes at exorbitant rates), antibiotics, hormones, Mercury, fillers, and

sometimes life-threatening bacteria. With plant-based protein sources the type of protein
sources needs to be varied because very few individually have all the essential amino acids to
build the bodies proteins. What you get along with those protein sources are more vitamins,
minerals, healthy fats, and fiber than the meat sources, and also the occasional life-threatening
bacteria (I may only eat plants but I’m honest lol plus it’s contamination from the livestock runoff water). Many studies are also now taking deeper looks at plant-based diets across the lifespan; the contribution to the aging process, diseases of society, effects on pregnancy for mother and fetus. All that I have read concluded that plant-based eaters live longer and have lower rates of disease or symptom flare up of chronic conditions. Pregnant while plant-based is getting a green light too with many researchers just advising that mothers-to-be see not only their prenatal practitioner but a dietary professional and keep a food journal. Since women can’t get pregnant without male assistance, let’s talk about the not finding a significant other taunt I hear often from my father. I am of the mind “your vibe attracts your tribe”. Taking that into consideration, I like to think my veggie bae is out there waiting to be found. I also attribute this possibility to the growing number of people interested in pursuing more plant-based based lifestyles. Thus I am unbothered because I KNOW male vegans, even melanated male vegans exist.
Does any of that make me less black though? Not at all. I take the utmost pride in my melanated appearance, and I love to talk to my son about his “magic skin” as we like to call it in my house. Foodwise I still make southern, Latin, and Caribbean dishes, just without the meat. I also don’t think I’m better than other black people who won’t give up meat just because of my diet. Am I a hippy? I do loosely identify as being a hippie. I am quite eccentric, my interests are eclectic, and I reject many common social norms but that was long before I ever contemplated no longer eating red meat. The most unexpected part of my vegan journey for me has been how much I learned about myself and how it stopped being about becoming a better me physically and morphed into a spiritual experience. The less meat I ate the more my relationship with my higher power changed. I began to find it easier to see beauty in people, animals, and landscapes.
In closing I have messages and advice to all reading this post. To the meat eaters-I respect that
some people are addicted to meat or just have the preference to eat it and have zero intentions
of giving it up. I won’t beg you to “convert”, however, I would advocate for any of you meat
eaters that have chronic conditions whether it’s high cholesterol, arthritis, asthma, or anything
else to just do something as simple as trying to meatless Mondays and see if that transforms
your symptoms or your numbers any more positive are tolerable direction. Additionally I do
believe there are ways to make our cultural dishes healthier even if you leave the meat in (just
have to do your research). I also ask that you be mindful of faux pas like feeling the need to tell those that don’t eat meat about how you could never give up chicken, or insisting we pick the meat out of what you make (it will still give us food poisoning), these are some of the things that increase tensions and miscommunication on both sides. For those actually looking to transition to veganism my biggest piece of advice is don’t go cold turkey. One reason is it’s extremely easy to revert when you start going through cravings and withdrawal symptoms if you do cold turkey. Additionally the vegan diet is more complex in terms planning to help ensure that you get all of your minerals, vitamins, proteins, etc. Food is also more pleasurable if you start with  familiar dishes and veganize or vegetarianize them. I personally found out the jokes we make about white people and their unseasoned chicken can apply to vegan food too. For those of you are just wondering why anyone would become a vegan in the first place I would also advocated for you all to do your research. If you aren’t a research journal reader, there are many documentaries on Netflix and YouTube, that talk about the ways that plant-based diets improve health and how factory farming damages the environment in addition to causing diseases when their by-products are consumed. At the end of this piece if you don’t walk away wanting to try veganism, vegetarianism, meatless Mondays, Veganuary, or a vegan / vegetarian cleanse I really hope that you walk away with a greater understanding of why there are increasing numbers of black people and people in general turning to plant-based diets.
Your body is your temple, your food is your offering.
Thunderstorm Temple Priestess
Movies to checkout
  •  Forks Over Knives
  •  Cowspiracy
  •  Food Inc
  •  Pure Plant Nation
  •  Food Matters
Cookbooks
  •  Vegan Soul Kitchen – Bryant Terry
  •  Afro-Vegan – Bryant Terry
  •  Caribbean Vegan – Taymer Mason
  •  Thug Kitchen 101 – Thug Kitchen (this does contain profanity in it)
  •  Student’s Vegetarian Cookbook for Dummies – Connie Sarros
*Pinterest is also very much your friend
Instagram Inspiration
  • @vegangod3ss
  • @300poundvegan
  • @crazyurbanvegan
  • @chefbabette
  • @veganfoodspot
*many of the movies and authors also have Instagram accounts
We’re back….

We’re back….

We’ve been quiet. I know, we disappeared as soon as we came alive. The fault is mine on that, as I became busy and didn’t find the time to update the blog like I should have. But know this ladies, we are still here and we are still on your side. We’ve seen the pain in the media, we’ve experienced the pain in our lives and know that you have experienced them in yours too. We’re still here, struggling with you. Better yet, we’re here, overcoming with you. So…who’s ready for some updates! I’ll post some pieces written by my co-authors in my absence. Don’t forget to check out the “About The Authors” section and more importantly, don’t forget to subscribe. I promise to do better. I’m sure we all know how hectic life can get at times, but The Black Yoni Society is more important to us then you could ever know….at least than you could know right now. This sister circle is valuable, and we want you to feel as if you are valuable to us also.

Amari Divine

Support Black Businesses!

Support Black Businesses!

I see a lot of black people go on rants on social media, complaining about black businesses. They complain about the customer service, the products, the pricing. Oh, how they complain about the pricing. Many small companies have higher pricing. Moreso, they want to be paid their worth. Why do we find it so hard to pay our own for the services they provide us? When you receive rude customer service from White, or Asian, or Arab owned businesses, you don’t boycott all of them. So why are you so hard on your own? No, you don’t owe them anything. You don’t have to shop with them. But you damn sure don’t have to slander ALL black business with the same tongue. I tell people all the time, “Maybe you’re just doing business with the wrong people.” Anytime I do business with ANYone new, I look into the reviews of previous customers. If you aren’t doing that, and you get scammed, that could happen with ANY business, not just black owned. And some of you are downright rude and impatient. You will send a rude email complaining about services without knowing any person’s situation. Yes, they are business, but they are people. I have a friend who owned a photography business. I know of an instance in which a client cancelled and rescheduled her session numerous times at the last minute before finally keeping an appointment. After my friend sent her the photos back, she stated that if there was a problem, or any changes to be made, to let her know within a month deadline. The client requests a half refund 3 months later claiming something was wrong, but never mentioned this issue to my friend before that time. THIS is what we do to our own. This is what we do to small businesses.  When we look around our neighborhoods, which businesses do you see thriving? I ask you to circulate the black dollar. It has power. WE have power. Black Wall Street existed before, and can exist again. You want to see how much power you have, then circulate your dollar within your own. By all means, shop with everyone, but DON’T DISCOUNT BLACK BUSINESSES! I believe that if we support black business more, we’ll support ourselves more. Support our communities more. Black businesses, I implore you to do the same. Support your communities.

by Amari Divine

Here are a few black businesses you can support:

Sovereign Visions GFX: @sovereignvizgfx (instagram); sovereignvisions@outlook.com or 901-878-9716 for quote. This business is the creator of our lovely Black Yoni Society logo!

Bree Wylde: http://www.thewyldelife.net; @shoptwl (instagram)

The Pretty Bull: www.prettybull.com; @theprettybull (instagram)

The Wrap Life: www.thewrap.life; @thewraplife (instagram)

ForeverSouthernRoyalty:  www.etsy.com/shop/foreversroyalty; @foreversroyalty (instagram)

Ashley’s Naturals: www.ashleysnaturals.com; @ashleysnaturals (instagram)

Xclusive Breed GFX: http://www.xclusivebreedgfx.weebly.com; @xclusivebreedscreenprint (instagram)

1969 Beauty: www.1969beauty.com; @1969beauty

Robigirls Closet Boutique: robigirlscloset.bigcartel.com; @robigirls13 (instagram)

Mz. Knowles MUA and Esthetician: @mzknowles (instagram); BrowCoutureMakeup@gmail.com

Grits Co. Clothing: http://www.weargrits.com/

NeferByJas: http://www.etsy.com/shop/neferbyjas; @neferbyjas (instagram)

PeaceImages Jewelry: www.peaceimages.com; @peaceimagesjewelry

Welcome…

Welcome…

Welcome to The Black Yoni Society. This blog, while not exclusive in nature, is made with Black women in mind. You got it. We’re the Black Yonis in this society. I don’t expect everyone to agree with the views of this blog and that’s fine, you don’t have to. It’s just a space to release thoughts and hopefully, unite black women through the words typed here. The idea for this blog came through a sister circle formed over social media. We deemed ourselves The Black Yoni Society and used our group to open up to each other about everything without judgment. And I mean EVERYTHING. We come from different walks of life,and in some instances have different views, but as like minded individuals we came to respect each other and create a bond so strong, you would think that we have known each other for years. So occasionally, you’ll see pieces written by different Queens. I hope that you, the readers, eventually bond with us as well. I hope that you find a home here, find sisters here, find a place to express your opinions that may be unpopular to your current circle. We’re here for you. We’re here to express our views about the state of things as we see it in America and about Black womanhood. And believe me: we have a lot to say. So sit back and enjoy. It gets heavy at times, but don’t worry. We got y’all.

Amari Divine